thoughts – Steve Vai on aging

…in our teenage years, there’s a lot of angst, energy…a lot of intensity.

During that period you kind of start discovering your independence. You know, the things that are important to you. The things that you’re interested in, and the things that you want to engage in…and that what you like is important.

…and sometimes you have to fight a world that is telling you something else that you should be doing. As you might’ve notticed that never works. You’ll only ever be happy being you.

You start discovering that in your 20’s.

In your 20’s you’re on fire. Your creative ideas are flowing, and you just want to get out there and rule the world. A very energetic state.

For me the 30’s and 40’s were pretty fantastic. You’ve got a lot of energy, you’re more organised with your thinking, you can accomplish more things effectively, and it was great…And it’s not like these periods don’t contain occasional drama. I mean, I had my fair share of that too. But as you get older you just don’t take those things so seriously. I think that a lot of these things come with age.

When I hit 50, the 50’s were the best. You start to realise you don’t have to worry about the things you can’t control. You don’t have to fix the world. The world is just fine, exactly the way it is. Don’t ask me to explain that right now…

But it’s nice when you start not taking things so seriously. It doesn’t mean you don’t take care of things, you actually take care of them more effectively because you have more clarity when you release, you know… things. And that’s nice…

I think the 60’s are going to be even better. What have I discovered in the 60’s?

Well one of things is that your whole life actually unfolds in your immediate environment. You’re always surrounded by your immediate environment. Whether it’s that you’re intereacting with your family, friends, or coworkers. Or even if you go someplace, you’re still only ever in your immediate environment…and when you look without any judging, or criticising, your immediate environment is usually really good. There’s a peace there.

This is contrast to the way I know I lived, and still live at times in my head.

You know. What I mean by that is, if you’re able to recognise the types of thoughts you’re thinking, most of the time they have to do with the past and alot of the time they focus on regretful things, grievences, and stuff like that..and identities that you created for yourself about things that happened to you or things you did, and they’re not happening anymore and life is now and this is one of the things that for me has been evolving.

It’s hard to let go, but it’s vital that you do if you want to enjoy life.

We also have a tendency to live in our mind, in history, or in the news, or we read what we believe is happening in the world, and all the terrible things, or whatever it is, and it’s all just kind of perspectives and opinions and when you don’t take your opinion so seriously (you can still have them) you find a freedom. You start to find a peace and you realise your immediate environment is actually pretty good, it’s the way you should be and not in your head.

You do that and on your 85th birthday you’re looking in the mirror going, “Wait, what happened? Where was my life? What happened to all those things? “

…and it’s unnecessary because living in your immediate environment is living life. This is what I’m discovering. It’s very rewarding…


One should use facts to curb feelings that serve no purpose.

WJP 2021

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